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Saturday, August 8, 2026

[TO YOU, FROM ME] Celebrating Women Changing the World

It's time to celebrate. 

Part of what I love about my role as Editor-In-Chief of this magazine for the past 20 years is my ability to use this platform to celebrate others. 

This issue is all about celebrating amazing women who are rising and thriving in different areas---and I'm glad to share them with all of you. 

I was raised by two amazing, strong women: my grandmother Quattie Webb and my mother Zattie Webb Sims. I saw firsthand the challenges they faced, the difficulties they had to overcome---but I also saw the joy they had for doing their best. I definitely wouldn't be who I am without them.

For you there might be things you have had to overcome. Maybe there are hills you are currently climbing. I want this issue to remind you that regardless of all that, you can change the world. You can make a difference. You can show others what is possible. 

As you read the features here think about ways you can emulate their courage, tenacity and grit. I also want you to think of ways you have already demonstrated your ability to keep moving, even in spite of challenges. This issue is a celebration for us all, because each of us have the power to do something amazing. 

Feel free to let me know what you think of this special issue celebrating amazing women. Also let me know about those who have impacted your own life. 

As always, thank you for your support of Conversations Magazine. Happy reading! 


Cyrus Webb, Editor-In-Chief

Conversations Magazine/ Mississippi Success Magazine 

[BOOK REVIEW] Where Hope Took Root by Dr. Annette West


 by Cyrus Webb

Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we don't know if we're coming or going. Things seem dark. Nothing seems to be going according to plan. 

It is in those moments that we have to really become grounded in our faith and the belief that if we don't give up things will work out for our good. 

This is what Dr. Annette West helps us to see in her book WHERE HOPE TOOK ROOT. We're able to meet Christopher and Holly: two individuals who are in love and trying to make the most of their life together, even when it is difficult. When it seems as though they might be at their breaking point, they allow themselves to get the help that they need. What happens next is not the perfect ending. It is the result of faith being renewed and the two of them being rooting in their love for God and each other. 

This story is so relatable, because it shows that men and women can have moments of uncertainty. What matters is that we don't give up on faith and each other. It also shows the importance of trusting Divine Timing, knowing that it will never lead us astray. 

WHERE HOPE TOOK ROOT is sure to inspire and motivate you to keep going through the storm, knowing that great things can be waiting on the other side. 

WHERE HOPE TOOK ROOT is available on Amazon

[BOOK REVIEW] Selective Compassion by Dr. Bridgette Y. Williams

 by Cyrus Webb

We live a world where people don't always consider how what they say and do impacts the lives of others, both positively and negatively. In SELECTIVE COMPASSION Dr. Bridgette Y. Williams examines not just the ways we can deal with situations in life but the difference we can make my just being more mindful in our approach to others. 

In the book we see examples in the home and in the world that we can learn from, helping us to not just be more compassionate but empathetic as well. It shows itself in what we say and how we say it. It's exemplified in what we do and how we choose to do it. 

Bridgette discusses it this way: "You must be present, you must listen, and you must not rush to explain pain away... I see it as a universal call to action." (p. 71)

The question becomes will you answer the call? As the book admits, there is no way to help everyone or to show up for everyone. But all of us have the ability to make a difference in the lives of those we are in contact with every day. It's just up to us to make that decision and allow real compassion to show itself. 

We never know the difference that can make until you try it. 

SELECTIVE COMPASSION is available on Amazon. 

[BOOK REVIEW] You Can't Keep A Good Elf Down by Janne Swearengen


by Cyrus Webb

Challenges come to us all. What we have to decide is if we're going to be able to learn from them and get stronger or let them consume us. 

For Janne Swearengen it wasn't a difficult decision at all. In her book YOU CAN'T KEEP A GOOD ELF DOWN we are able to see how she not just deals with a cancer diagnosis, but the way she also chooses to learn and grow when it comes to herself and others. 

This book was even more endearing to me while I was reading it as my younger brother was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma in early 2026. As I was able to take the journey of Janne's treatment and dealing with the challenges she faced, I shared it with my brother hoping he would find it inspiring as he went through his own cancer journey. 

What stands out the most in YOU CAN'T KEEP A GOOD ELF DOWN is Janne's choice to look for the bright spots, appreciate the little things and glean lessons about humanity, the importance of hope and the appreciation for the loved ones around us. The book is sure to help anyone dealing with challenges realize not just the importance of the right attitude but the willingness to fight. 

Giving up was never an option for Janne. Nor should it be for us as well. Even when you seem to be at your lowest point, don't give up. Victory is something you can attain. You just have to keep going in order to get it. 

Friday, August 7, 2026

[AUTHOR SPOTLIGHT] Author Rochelle Dawson

by Cyrus Webb

Author Rochelle Dawson is using her gift of storytelling to entertain and inspire readers of all ages, reminding them of what is possible. In the process she is spreading some joy along the way and showing aspiring authors what is possible

Currently she has three published books: Josiah the Great and the Cassie the Sassy Fairy series. 

Rochelle, how does it feel to have your stories out into the world?

To know that people are interested in my work is a beautiful feeling.

Your books are written for young people but have great messages for all. When did you realize that storytelling was something you were interested in?

I have been writing stories for as long as I can remember. As a teen, I would use composition notebooks to write short stories.

I love the fact that you have messages that encourage not just self-love but being yourself as well. Why was that important to you?

We live in a world where people are literally worshiped for the life they present on social media. That has our children growing up to believe that they are nobody if their life doesn’t measure up to what they see there. My hope is that I can show the reader that they are already special with no approval needed.

Fear is something that keeps so many from pursuing their goals and dreams. What helped you not fall into that trap?

I believe it is natural to fear the unknown, but I also came to understand that fear is not real, it is lack of confidence. With the encouragement of my family and running out of excuses I published my first book.

These stories are personal to you, but how does it feel to hear from readers how much they enjoy them?

That feeling is like waking up on Christmas morning as a young child! Each time I receive a great review or positive feedback my feet leave the ground.


What advice would you give other inspiring writers about the importance of pursuing their own goals and dreams?

I would say the first step is believing you can. See yourself as a writer with something to say that people will want to read. Be your own cheerleader and expect to win. Remember that fear is lack of confidence and a good way to build your confidence is by doing what you love.

Thanks again, Rochelle, for spending some time with us. How can readers connect with you?

Thank you for having me. Readers can find me on both Instagram and TikTok @rdawsonwrites.


All of Rochelle's books are available on Amazon. 


Victoria Christopher Murray: Sharing History While Making Her Own


by Cyrus Webb

I’ve been a fan of Victoria Christopher Murray since her first book, and it’s been amazing watching her rise and thrive, garnering readers literally around the world.

As a New York Times bestselling author, she has thrilled readers with her unique ability to tell stories that draw the reader in and keep you engaged until the very last page. She has also had the privilege of seeing her books brought to life in movies, fulfilling what is the dream of so many authors. Along the way, she has not just nurtured her own career but found the time to pour into other authors as well.

In 2025, she celebrated her first solo historical fiction novel, Harlem Rhapsody. The paperback edition was released this year, and at the time of this magazine’s release, her newest book with fellow New York Times bestselling author Marie Benedict, called A Pair of Aces, has been released and is receiving glowing reviews.

In this conversation, I talk with Victoria about her amazing journey, response to Harlem Rhapsody, introducing the world (and me) to Jessie Redmon Fauset, and what it’s been like to do work she loves and find her tribe along the way.

Victoria, thank you so much for spending some time with us. I really appreciate it.

Thank you for having me back, Cyrus. You know you're one of my favorite people to talk to over the years.

Thank you for that! I want to talk about this experience for you. Of course, you are no stranger to book tours. You're no stranger to press. What was it like for you to see people embrace Harlem Rhapsody and Jessie's story?

It was amazing because, like you, I had never heard of the woman who ignited the Harlem Renaissance. Like, it's crazy. You and I are both book lovers, and we are lovers and admirers of the people that she mentored, and never heard her name. She is one of the most important figures in African American literature, and to bring her story, her life back to life has truly been an honor.

And the places! One of my favorite books is Dr. Seuss's book, Oh, All the Places You'll Go. And all the places that writing Harlem Rhapsody and Jessie Redmon Fauset have taken me…it's been amazing.

Victoria, when you were researching and writing the book, did you realize how powerful this book would be, not only to your career, but also to the world in introducing Jessie?

I didn't, and proof of that is when it was time for me to write my first solo historical fiction, I actually gave my editor three options. Jessie was my second choice, and I was very surprised when my editor and her boss said it had to be Jessie. And I was like, really? But I trust them. And they were absolutely right. They were right for so many reasons. It made sense for me to write the book on the woman whose shoulders I stand. 

And you gave me the greatest compliment, Cyrus. I've had hundreds of interviews [about this book]. My launch was at the Kennedy Center. I spoke at the Barbara Bush Foundation and sat next to Neil Bush. And the one thing that stands out in my mind is something you said to me during the first interview of this book. And I think it was the first week it came out or something. You said, “Victoria, no one else could have written this book.” And that was the greatest compliment, because I had no idea how big this was going to be and how important a story it was until after the book was written, until after I took her out into the world and people were saying, “Why don't we know her? I need to get her other books. I need to tell everybody about her.”

I meant it when I said it, Victoria, and it is so true. How does it feel to know that something you have labored with for so long has been able to connect with people in ways that others have not?

That's why I know it's a gift, because it has nothing to do with me. I just write what's in my heart. One of the other great compliments I received was with The Personal Librarian, where the reviewer was talking about all the wonderful books that Marie had written. And then he said, “Victoria Christopher can write anything she wants to.” And that was a great compliment, because he was like, it doesn't even matter what the genre is. And that's when you know it's a gift. And so, I have to rely on people like you and other people I've interviewed with to tell me how much the books have mattered, because I don't know that. I don't feel that as I'm writing. As I'm touring, though, I do feel that.


Well, one thing that Jessie Redmon Fauset faces in this book, Victoria, that I think is so prominent—which is why I had made that comment initially about this book that no one could have written it but you—is that she experienced what so many women like yourself have experienced: Women who have achieved so much, women who have so much talent can bring so much to the world, and still feel like they have to prove something to other people, especially men.

Jessie experienced that. Did that surprise you as you were writing the book, the similarities that the two of you share? Even though she was so accomplished, had done so much, that for some people, she still had to prove that she belonged where she was.

That's a good question. I don't think I realized it going in. What I realized when I got to that part, when I was reading about her, is that I could write this part.

Like you said, I'm a Black woman who has well over thirty books, books on TV, I'm a New York Times bestseller by God's grace…I am a USA Today bestseller, an NAACP Image Award Winner… and even with this book, I had people telling my publisher, “Victoria has to prove herself.”

So, the reason that I really embraced what you said about only I could have written this book is because so much of what she experienced, I understood. People say they stand on people's shoulders all the time, but I truly stand on her shoulders. I've been writing books about the Black middle class for thirty years, and she's [Fauset] the first person to write a book about the Black middle class. So, when you stand on someone's shoulders, I wanted to do justice to her story, but I felt like I knew her life. I knew all the issues that she had with men, all the issues she had with white people, even as her mother was white and sometimes had to remind her that she was Black. I knew her story. I knew her story before I knew Jessie Redmon Fauset.

I'm just a woman who will always have to prove herself. I'm a Black woman, and this is America. And I've been given an awesome opportunity to be a writer in this country, but I also understand that I will be marginalized. So, I don't complain about it. I just work through it.


Let's sit with that for a second, because that's a powerful thing you just said, Victoria. And I have to say, as your friend, it hurts me that you have to say that. It hurts that is the reality that you've been living with. When you think about what you said—that it is what it is—how does that feel?

Yeah, it's very sad. It's very sad. And especially because you have comparisons, you know, apples to apples and things like that with other authors. It's a sad thing, but if I focus on it too much, I will wallow in that. And instead, what I would rather focus on is look at how Berkleypart of Random House, the largest publisher in the United Statesgave me this opportunity. And you've been with me on this journey as I've been writing this book and this book coming out. If anybody were to ask me what more could Berkley have done for me, there's not another thing. They laid it all on the table for me with Harlem Rhapsody. So, while I have obstacles in the way, I want to focus on this great opportunity that I was given with this publisher, who now is a little surprised to see some of the marginalization themselves but who still stands behind me.

And so, I focus on that, because that gives me the opportunity to propel forward. And they are the reason for the success, standing by me as a partner and standing by me as one of their authors. They are the reason that Harlem Rhapsody has had the success that it has had.

I understand what you mean, Victoria, but to me, you're the reason why Harlem Rhapsody is a success.

Well, okay. They would say the same thing. I could hear my editor now saying, “Victoria, you're the reason.” Yes, and I'm working very hard. We wouldn't even have enough time for me to tell you the marginalization I experienced with this book. And so, I could sit down, and I could focus on that and tell you about that, but I'd rather focus on the fact that I had such great support from my publisher and then use the feelings to keep pushing forward.

It's because of what I've experienced in my whole career that I was able to even write Harlem Rhapsody. It was all of the people standing in my face telling me what I couldn't do. All of the people pushing me aside. If I didn't have those experiences, I wouldn't have even been able to write a book like Harlem Rhapsody and all the books that I hope to write in the future about Black women who've been hidden in history. And if Black women have been hidden in history, they experienced what I'm experiencing now. I can't write their stories authentically if I didn't walk in some parts of their shoes.


I totally understand that. And then there are those who are coming behind you. You've opened up the door for so many authors and showed them what is possible. You have also given them the encouragement they need to keep going. How does that feel to know?

 I think about Mr. Holland's Opus. At the end, when the students say to Mr. Holland, “We are your opus.” How does that feel to know that you have this opus of individuals who are writing and doing what they do because of you?

Well, that I love a lot. Because if there is anything that I love as much as writing and reading, it's teaching writing and coaching people through writing. And I just feel like it is up to me, and when I say me, “I'm talking about a collective me, all of us who are writers, to bring other writers along. Especially as I've entered into this historical fiction realm, and I'm coaching all kinds of writers. It's been fabulous.

I feel like I was born for a time such as this. Like all the rest of my writing led me here. And I got better and better and better over the years because these historical fiction books are the most important books that I will ever write for my culture, for my race. 

As they're trying to erase my history, I can excavate it. And as they're trying to ban books, they'll ban one, I'll figure out a way to write two. And maybe I have to write two by me or me writing one and coaching someone else to write one. And so leading writers and coaching writers and helping them write goes hand in hand with me writing historical fiction. It's for a time such as this.

Stay connected with Victoria on her website: https://victoriachristophermurray.com/

Tuesday, August 4, 2026

AUTHOR PROFILE: Penda L. James, author of Running Between Dandelions

by Cyrus Webb

I met author Penda L. James a few years ago while in North Carolina, and it has been great watching not only her own literary journey but her support for others as well. 

In her book Running Between Dandelions she gives readers characters that are on the road to healing and self-love, something that Penda knows well. 

In this conversation we talk about the path she is on and the lessons learned along the way. 

Penda, we are so glad to have you with us! What has it been like for you to reflect on all you have achieved?

When I think about my goals and accomplishments for the year, all of them are big, audacious goals that I never could have imagined I’d be able to accomplish. 

I had a lot of personal and professional transitions that required me to reflect deeply about things that are important to me and why I do what I do. As I reflect I realize that I am only successful because God has had His hand on me and my life.

I know from following you that you are big on supporting and empowering others. Where does that come from?

My parents taught me and my siblings that we have to look out for others. Through their life, I grew up understanding how to build and sustain a village that helps others thrive. As the oldest child, I have always had to think about other people before myself. As a Christian, I also try to ensure that God gets the glory for all of the things He does through me.

Your newest project is the novel RUNNING BETWEEEN DANDELIONS. What was the inspiration for this book?

2026 is the tenth year of my mother’s passing. I thought about the best way to honor her and the women who shaped her. While reading her journal and reflecting on the questions I never got to ask her, I began to write about motherhood and the story took on a life of its own.  I call it Running Between Dandelions because I want to encourage people to have conversations that sustain healing and restoration.

One of the things the book addresses is how we are impacted by our family and environment. Did you know that was going to be a big part of the story?

When I started writing, I did not know that the themes of the story would be about family or family history. When I started writing, the first scene was about how one of the characters was suffering from a headache. As I unpacked the story, I uncovered the gems of healing and restoration, and these became the themes for the book.

Your transparency on social media is one of the things I admire about you. What has helped you to share so much of your journey with the world?

In 2022, my father passed away suddenly. At that time, the world was coming out of the COVID-19 pandemic. During COVID, I started a live podcast because I was feeling isolated from loved ones and I needed to fortify my faith. Going live almost every day, I spoke to friends and family, and our conversations led me to be vulnerable and transparent about difficult topics.  I learned how to sit in my feelings, ask questions with depth, and own my feelings. The Resilience Project was the door that allowed me to be more comfortable sharing my journey with the world authentically.

What are you looking forward next?

I look forward to sharing more about Running Between Dandelions with readers and other authors. I am also working on a short film and hope to go into production next year.  

Congratulations again, Penda. Looking forward to staying in touch. How can our readers stay connected with you?

Thank you for the opportunity. I can be reached at www.pendaljames.com. You can also find me on Instagram at @penscribed, Penda L. James on LinkedIn and Penda L. James on Facebook.

[Article] "When She Reminds You of YOU"

by Melanie D. Phillips

There’s a moment in motherhood that no one truly prepares you for.

It sneaks up on you during a tantrum, in a slammed door, in an eye roll that echoes something all too familiar. You pause, your breath catches, and you whisper silently to yourself:

“She reminds me of me.”

And not just the good parts.

Not just the parts you share on social media, the creativity, the courage, the sass, and the sparkle. But also, the parts you’ve spent years trying to leave behind. The anger. The abandonment issues. The fierce independence that’s truly fear in disguise. The perfectionism. The pain.

Suddenly, motherhood becomes a mirror. And you’re not just raising her, you’re revisiting you.

Welcome to triggered parenting.

The Mirror You Never Asked For

Most mothers think their child’s behavior triggers them. But often, it’s not the child, it’s the unhealed you that’s reacting.

When your daughter questions everything, it triggers the little girl in you who was silenced.
When she breaks down emotionally, it hits the part of you that was told to “suck it up.”
When she withdraws, it awakens the wound of feeling unloved or unseen.

And in that space, something powerful occurs: You’re given a divine invitation not merely to parent your daughter, but to reparent yourself.

The Unseen Hand-Me-Downs

We believe we’re passing down clothes, traditions, recipes, and memories. However, we’re also passing down belief systems, emotional patterns, fears, and coping mechanisms.

If we don’t take the time to recognize what’s in our emotional closet, we’ll dress our daughters in garments that were never meant for them:
– The coat of people-pleasing
– The shoes of self-doubt
– The scarf of shame
– The backpack of buried emotions

And when she wears them, we’ll wonder, “Why is she struggling like I did?”

Because pain, when ignored, becomes an heirloom.
But healing? Healing becomes a heritage.

Pause Before You React

In triggered parenting, your first instinct might be control. But here’s the truth: what you try to control, you often repeat.

Instead of reacting, get curious:

  • “What am I feeling right now, and where have I felt this before?”
  • “Is this really about her behavior, or is it about my memory?”
  • “Am I trying to protect her, or the younger me who never felt protected?”

These aren’t easy questions, but they’re essential.

They require you to parent from a place of intention, not instinct; of healing, not history; of presence, not pain.

When Her Voice Sounds Like Yours

There often comes a moment in many mother-daughter relationships when the daughter speaks up not out of defiance, but with honesty.

“Mom, I don’t feel heard when I’m upset. You go straight into fixing or correcting.”

It stings. Not because it’s an attack, but because it reflects back at you.

The mother wants to respond with, “I’m just trying to help,” but deep down, she senses something more profound stirring. The Holy Spirit whispers about what she has buried for years: You used to feel unheard, too.

Suddenly, the moment goes beyond the daughter’s voice; it is about the mother's unspoken wounds. It reflects how she once learned to suppress her feelings to maintain peace, how she turned silence into her survival strategy, and how, without realizing it, she passed that pattern on.

But this time, she chooses a different path.

She pauses. She breathes. She apologizes not out of guilt, but out of a desire for growth. And they converse not just as mother and daughter, but as two women learning to understand each other while healing themselves.

That conversation doesn't resolve everything. But it changes everything.

Not because it was perfect, 
But because it was honest. 
Because it was real. 
Because it opened a door to healing for both of them.

Leading While Healing

One of the most radical things you can do as a mother is to heal openly. Do not perform perfectly. Do not hide your emotions. But demonstrate the work.

Your daughter doesn’t need a perfect mother. She needs a devoted one.

She needs to see:

  • How to pause and pray instead of punishing for pain.
  • How you attend therapy because you value mental and emotional wellness.
  • How to say, “I’m sorry” instead of “Because I said so.”
  • How to journal, cry, talk, release, and reset without shame.

Healing as a mother is not a contradiction. It’s a calling.

When she sees you choose healing, she understands that she can do the same.

Daughters Don’t Need Perfection—They Need Permission

Permission to feel. 
Permission to question. 
Permission to not have everything figured out.

And that permission starts with you.

You represent her first glimpse of womanhood, her initial definition of softness and strength, and her foremost teacher of boundaries and beliefs. The more whole you become, the freer she feels to embrace herself without apology.

That’s how we break cycles.
That’s how we build bridges.
That’s how we strengthen bonds.

It Starts With One Honest Moment

So, what do you do when she reminds you of yourself?

You take a breath. You contemplate. And you decide to choose differently.

You say, “I see you.”
You say, “I used to feel that way too.”
You say, “I want to help you without projecting what hurt me.”

And then you embark on the challenging, yet sacred, work of reconnecting with your own inner child.

You ask:

  • What did I need at her age that I never received?
  • What lies did I believe that I didn’t want her to carry?
  • What emotional tools did I lack that I want to give her now?

You don’t just tell her to “be strong,” you show her how to be both soft and strong.
You don’t just tell her to “be respectful,” you demonstrate how to communicate with compassion.
You don’t just tell her to “be herself,” you create space for all of who she is, even when it stretches you.

 

Final Thoughts

When your daughter reflects your struggles, that’s not failure. That’s feedback.
It’s an opportunity, a window into the areas where God still wants to heal you, even as you nurture her.

Triggered parenting is not an indication that you’re broken. Instead, it’s a signal that you’re evolving.

So, when she reminds you of yourself, thank God.
Because it means your legacy is being rewritten in real time.

And this time, it will be built not on silence, but on truth.
Not on pain, but on purpose.
Not on patterns, but on powerful, intentional love.

You’re not just raising a daughter.
You’re raising your own healed reflection.

And that is the most sacred work of all.

 

 Melanie D. Phillips is the founder of Strengthen The Bond, LLC, a movement dedicated to restoring and strengthening family relationships, especially between mothers and daughters. A two-time bestselling author, speaker, and certified Life Shift Coach, Melanie creates healing spaces through workshops, conferences, and storytelling rooted in faith, emotional intelligence, and legacy work. After walking through her journey of brokenness and restoration, she became passionate about helping families communicate, reconnect, and thrive. Her mission is to help others break generational cycles and pass down wisdom, not wounds. Learn more at www.strengthenthebond.com and on Instagram @strengthenthebond

[Article] Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes: 5 Power Moves Every Woman Should Make This Year


by Chanelle Coleman Wesley

Author of “She Said Yes to Herself Unapologetically

My heart was racing, my hands were sweating, and butterflies swirled in the pit of my stomach.

I wanted to make the move. I needed to.

This could be the moment that changed everything — a chance to finally develop myself as a speaker.

But as the invitation to join the course from a notable transformational speaker lingered in the atmosphere… I hesitated.

“What if I wasn’t good enough?” “What if I wasn't really called to do the thing that made me feel more alive than I’ve ever felt?”

My moment of courage passed.

Once again, I realigned with my fears and convinced myself that “next time” would be better.

But “next time” never came.

Instead, I kept hitting the same brick wall until I became sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Sound familiar?

If you’ve ever made bold declarations like “new year, new me” or whispered to yourself, “this time will be different,” only to shrink when it’s time to show up for your next level — this article is for you.

Here’s the truth: Nothing changes if nothing changes.

And if you’re ready to stop playing small and start moving with clarity and power — here are 5 moves you must make this year.

1. Say Yes to Yourself Unapologetically

Sis, someone’s been denied the benefit of your yes — and that someone is you.

You’ve shown up for everyone else. You’ve clapped, supported, encouraged, and challenged the limiting beliefs of others. Now it’s time to do the same for yourself. You are deserving of greatness. You are worthy of more. You are capable of more.

Practical Power Move:

You are worthy of your yes. So instead of talking yourself out of something this week- talk yourself into something amazing this week.

2. Set boundaries in your relationships.

A boundary a day keeps insanity away.

— She Said Yes to Herself Unapologetically

If you would’ve asked me a few years ago what  boundaries were, who they were for, and how they were used - I would’ve given a long worn out answer that wouldn’t’ve made much sense. Why? I knew what they were- but I wasn’t sure how they applied to me. I felt like they worked well in nature but not in closest relationships. I couldn’t’ve been more wrong.

“A boundary is a defined area of respect. In order for a boundary to be respected it must first be established. The boundaries you set aren’t for others — they are for you. Your boundaries teach you how to treat you.” They tell what you will and won’t accept. How can you hold someone to a standard you have yet to ascribe to? If you don’t respect your boundaries- no one else will.

3. Release What No Longer Aligns

We’ve all had a favorite pair of jeans. The ones we feel like go with everything. But what happens when our treasured jeans no longer fit? Do we try to turn ourselves into a gymnast- jumping, twisting, and turning, trying to force it to fit?  What once served you for a time may no longer suit you. And that’s okay.

There’s no need to hold on to outdated commitments based on a sense of misplaced loyalty. Release what no longer has the capacity to sustain you — emotionally, mentally, spiritually, or professionally. There are attitudes, principles, routines, and mindsets that served us at one point- but now that time is over and the season has ended.

Practical Power Move:

What’s something you’ve continued to do out of habit? The practice doesn’t really provide any benefit- you just do it because you’ve “always” done it. Sis— Maybe it’s time to let it go.

4. Stop Shrinking

You were not created to fit in anyone’s box.

It’s time to step out of the shadows and into the space you were born to occupy. You don’t have to dim your light or adjust your brilliance because you’re afraid you may shine too bright. Show up boldly. Speak loudly. Live fully. You were made to take up space. One of my favorite movies growing up—and although the film was a mature for a young girl my age- and despite the fact that I know I’m going to date myself with this but—it was “Dirty Dancing”. toward the end of the movie Johnny (Patrick Swayze) and Frances were scheduled to perform the last dance, During the movie the secret love of the two characters was revealed, and Swayze’s character was ousted. 

With the relationship exposed and his less than sanctimonious departure, the annual dance was canceled and instead they opted for a safe musical performance. But Swayze returns and sees Baby (Frances) sitting in the corner with her family. Patrick walks up to the family and says “No one puts Baby in a corner. “The dancers put on a stellar performance, and it sparks a fire and everyone begins “dirty dancing”. Now your shrinking may have nothing to do with hitting the dance floor. 

But don’t allow anyone to put you in the corner—-including you.

Practical Power Move:

Do one thing every day that stretches you. Advocate for yourself. Speak up. Apply for that opportunity. Be seen. Be heard.

5. Launch the Thing You’ve Been Sitting On

You’ve talked yourself into and out of that thing long enough. The idea you keep putting off — the product, service,  book, the business, the course — is the very thing that could unlock someone else’s freedom.

Someone is waiting on you to show up so they can get to the other side, so show up!

Practical Power Move:

Create a SMART goal. In order for goals to be smart they must be Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-bound. When you’ve written it down hang it somewhere where you can see it daily. Out of sight = out of momentum.

Final Word:

This is your moment to stop waiting on it — and start walking in it.

You don’t need another permission slip.

You’ve been equipped. You’ve been called. You’ve been prepared.

It’s your time. It’s your turn.

And nothing changes… if nothing changes.

[Article] From Passion to Profit: How to Turn Your Love for Events Into a Thriving Business


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Have you ever been the go-to person for planning family gatherings, organizing your best friend’s baby shower, or transforming a birthday dinner into a Pinterest-worthy experience? If your heart skips a beat at the thought of color palettes, venue layouts, and timelines—congratulations. You might just be an event planner in the making.

But loving events and turning that passion into a full-fledged business? That’s a different story—and one worth telling.

In this feature, I’m sharing the real roadmap I used to build a successful, purpose-driven event planning business. Whether you're just starting out or dreaming about the leap, these are the key steps to go from passion to profit—without losing the magic that made you fall in love with events in the first place.

 STEP ONE: Think Like a Business Owner

The first and most important shift? Your mindset.

Many aspiring planners struggle to see themselves as business owners in the beginning. But professionalism starts with intention. If you treat event planning like a hobby, that’s how others will see it. It’s time to shift your perspective and step into your role as CEO—even if you're still planning in your spare room.

Ask yourself:

  • Am I committed to showing up consistently?
  • Will I honor every opportunity, big or small, with excellence?
  • Am I ready to lead, learn, and grow?

Your mindset is your foundation—and it determines everything that follows.

STEP TWO: Find Your Planning Personality

Not all event planners are created equal—and that’s the beauty of it.

Do you thrive in intimate social settings or love the scale of large corporate experiences? Are you drawn to dreamy weddings, themed birthday parties, or luxury baby showers?

Discovering your niche doesn’t mean boxing yourself in. It means understanding your strengths and serving your ideal client with clarity. Defining your niche helps shape your brand, your marketing, and your overall direction.

 STEP THREE: Build a Brand That Speaks for You

In today’s digital world, a strong brand is essential—even in the early days. But don’t worry, you don’t need a full marketing agency to look polished.

Start small:

  • Choose a name that reflects your style
  • Create a simple but elegant logo
  • Use free design tools (like Canva) to create branded materials
  • Set up a clean, mobile-friendly website or portfolio page

Let your personality shine through every touchpoint—from your Instagram feed to your email signature.

 STEP FOUR: Lay the Legal and Financial Foundation

Here’s where passion meets paperwork.

You’ll need to legitimize your business with some essentials:

  • Register your business name
  • Open a business bank account
  • Create or download basic contracts
  • Look into business insurance

These steps may not be glamorous, but they’re critical to building a professional, protected, and scalable business.

 STEP FIVE: Get Real Experience—Then Leverage It

Don’t let a lack of clients hold you back from getting started.

Offer to plan an event for a friend. Volunteer at a local nonprofit. Shadow an experienced planner. The point is to gain hands-on experience that you can use to:

  • Build your portfolio
  • Collect testimonials
  • Learn how to solve real-time challenges

Every event is a steppingstone, so document your work and treat each one like it’s your big break.

 STEP SIX: Don’t Be Afraid to Charge

Pricing is one of the biggest hurdles new planners faces. Many undercharge—or don’t charge at all—because they’re afraid of rejection.

But here’s the truth: your time, energy, and creativity are valuable.

Start with a starter package. Be transparent. And most importantly, present your pricing with confidence. The right clients will see your value.

Pro Tip: Bundle your services instead of charging hourly. Clients love clarity, and packages help position you as a professional from day one.

STEP SEVEN: Build Relationships That Build Your Business

This industry is driven by people—vendors, clients, venues, and creatives. Your relationships will shape your business more than any ad ever could.

Network intentionally. Show appreciation. Keep in touch. These simple gestures go a long way in building trust and referrals.

Remember: Your reputation is your résumé.

 STEP EIGHT: Stay Curious and Keep Growing

Even after more than 25 years in the business, I still learn something new with every event.

Invest in your growth:

  • Take courses
  • Attend workshops
  • Subscribe to industry publications
  • Stay on top of trends

The most successful planners are the ones who stay both grounded in their values and open to learning.

 You’ve Got This

Your love for events isn’t random—it’s a gift. And when nurtured with strategy, professionalism, and heart, it can blossom into a business that not only pays the bills but fulfills your purpose.

So don’t wait for the “perfect moment” or another year of self-doubt. Start where you are. Take the first step. Your passion has already brought you this far—now it’s time to let profit meet purpose.


Stay connected with Melissa Banks at www.themelissabanks.com